One Way is to Wear Very Short Skirts

The above quote is from Oscar Wilde. Another quote from Alfred Tennyson, British poet, “How sweet are looks that ladies bend on whom their favours fall!” aptly describes the long standing art of flirtation. Or, as Anita Brookner, British novelist and art historian, wrote, “Young women have a duty to flirt, to engage in heartless and pointless stratagems, to laugh, pretend, tease, have moods, enslave and discard. The purpose of these maneuvers is to occupy their time, the time that women of later generations are to give to their careers.”

When it comes to the art of flirtation, there are as many ways as there are people trying to explore them. From the subtle to the direct in-your-face to the one-liner and the direct body-language signal, women are engaging in the age-old art of flirtation. Flirting can start slowly with a warm smile, the wink of an eye, or a subtle glance from across the room. In an Ebony, Nov 2003, article “The joys and dangers of flirting; how to flirt when to flirt, when not to flirt” by Nikitta A. Foston, the author says that almost everyone believes that your most effective attribute, from the standpoint of flirting, is the eye, and that your success in flirting depends, first and foremost, on the power and the art of your eye appeal.

The best approach to getting someone’s attention is simple. If you see something you like, send a series of powerful eye signals. If you look long enough, you’re bound to get a response. But be careful. There is a fine line between staring and being rude.” Of course, another way to get someone’s attention is by wearing provocative clothing, including, but not limited to very short skirts. There is one online cataloger that specializes in this type of apparel, The Flirt Catalog. For those of you who want to pursue this type of clothing, check it out.

According to Ms. Foston, “Most experts recommend an on-and-off approach. Next is the opener – something to get the attention of that special someone. Compliments are always appropriate and can often lead to conversation. Complimenting a person on how they look, what they are wearing, or even how their hair is styled are subtle ways to let a person know that you’re interested, A plain ‘hello’ while looking into a man’s eyes or a ‘thank you’ while maintaining eye contact as he opens the door is also a subtle but effective flirting method.” She continues, “Begin with a complimentary opener.”That’s a stylish suit you have on,” “I love your tie. It looks great with that suit,” or “That’s a nice briefcase … where’d you buy it?” According to experts, women are less likely to base their comments on a man’s body, but are more likely to use body language as a flirtation method. A slight toss of the hair, an extra sway in the wall or a subtle cross of the legs when sitting beside a handsome suitor are a few of the non-verbal methods of getting a man’s attention.”

She suggests that women may also use general openers that ask for a man’s assistance: “Do you know how to get to this location?” or “Do you have change for a dollar?” This type of flirtation is twofold: It makes the man feel needed, thereby stroking his ego, and it creates an immediate exchange of information.

There are certain types of clothing that definitely attract attention—particularly at the beach.; however, let’s face the hard realities of our body image. Most women do not look that great in micro mini thong bikinis. Maybe the very young and the very shapely do, but not the vast majority. If you want to get attention, remember that there are more positive ways of doing so without appearing quite so obvious. You could become an object of ridicule rather than one of attraction.

Other interesting notes in Ms. Foston’s article is her advice as WHAT NOT TO DO If you’re looking for a man, She says,” You’ve got to be a lady; if you’re too direct with a man, it changes the game. You’ve got to let a man know that you’re interested, but you can’t assume his role.” Everyday situations offer freedom from the pres ~Other venues that are conducive to flirting include social conferences, cultural events, concerts, after-work affairs, picnics, museums, libraries and business and professional conferences. Places such as airports, casinos, train stations, fitness centers, jogging paths, and parks are perfect spots for flirtation. Even home improvement stores are a good local! Regardless of where, always be aware of the danger signals that could lead to compromising situations. If a person starts to physically back away from you or if they stop volunteering information, then you’ve gone as far as you need to go. Even if what you’re doing is totally innocent, you have to know when to stop. Whatever you do, don’t get yourself into a compromising situation. More than your ego could be hurt.

Don’t despair, there is hope! As people grow older, they are more aware of their desires and better able to perfect their flirting. It has been suggested that younger people are a bit more aggressive. They are more into the physical looks of the person and their flirting is based on that interest. Usually, younger people will introduce the topic of sex sooner in a conversation. Older people, on the other hand, have a flirtatious manner that is more mature and is based on the quality of the person.

If you’re into the attire flirting game and you’re looking for really short skirts, you can go online to the site of, among others, the Flirt Catalog to find this apparel. It has been said that flirting maybe an age old, biologically- driven activity, but today it is also played with artful self-awareness and even conscious calculation. Part of that calculation involves clothing; so, whether you’re in the market for very short skirts, a micro mini thong bikini (think twice!) or really short skirts, try the internet for your flirtatious attire.